Lousy online shopping experience

I had a very lousy online shopping experience recently. I used to buy clothes from this vendor, Red Dotie, about 2 years ago, it was quite alright, not bad quality and cut. So this time I see that they are having sales, so I decided to buy some clothes from them, it turn out to be an utter disappointment. Out of 4 items i bought, 2 are defected with lousy material and even lousier cutting. Totally different from what is shown in the pictures. What is worse is I introduced someone to buy from them, and out of 2 items she bought all can't be worn.
They accept exchange for defected items which is acceptable but it is hard to really do an exchange when you have to go to the post office to send the items back and needing to spend money in postage. If inclusive of postage for exchange, I can probably buy something from a shop and with better quality.
After this experience I will not ever buy anything from this vendor ever again. Lousy goods and attitude.

Rebonding

I have finally decided to do something to my messy hair on Sunday. Went for soft rebonding at Hair Inn @ AMK hub. Spent 3hrs + and $215 to change my head of grass into a heard of straws (black in color though) all straight and boring. But at least it is not messy and sticking out everywhere. It took my mum 1 day to realised that I have reborned my hair and her comment was, ' you look so weird', a dent in my heart. Afterall I have spent so much money and time on it. Today in office, mr colleague says I look good with my new hair, better than before, the new hair style makes me look younger and even more professional than before. The sun finally shone out of the dark cloud.
I have no idea why, but even after washing, my hair still smell like chemical. The smell is so sharp that i feel as though my troat is buring >.<
Even though i still not used to my new hair, but still quite satisfied. No more hair sticking out everywhere!! The only inconvenience is cannot tie my hair for a month.

Jazz 1 Lesson 1

Took my Jazz 1 lesson after missing 3 lessons in intro to Jazz. It was a lot more difficult than Intro to Jazz. Same stretching exercise, but did more difficult moves. And once again my hand and leg coordination problem surfaced together with my disorientation. Always ended up spinning wrong direction, if not is having same hand same leg >.< the lesson was fun but not very beneficial as the instructor don’t really teach and correct the moves as the lessons are ongoing which means there are a lot people who had be taking the lessons for some time and know the moves, therefore for new people like me, it’s a bit of a problem. The choreo learned was very nice, but not very easy, especially for a person who is not v flexible like me. So ended up, I look more clumsy than graceful, as what others are doing. Hahaha
After lesson, its shopping again…despite telling myself I shouldn’t be spending too much money buying clothes, I bought 2 dresses and a white denim skirt at Top Shop for $100+ luckily they are having discount, if not it would be a big hole in my pocket.

New Spectacle!!

Just gotten myself a new pair of spectacle and sunglass but not on my own expense (^.^)\/

It is under my yearly optical claim and it is expiring so must get them.

Went with E, my colleague to the optical shop, and cos she know the people in the shop, we got a pretty good discount. For my sunglass, it is from Guess, original price was about $260 but I got it at $140, quite a good bargain, and my spec cost me $310.

It looks quite good when i tried it in the optical shop..But now when i collected it, it looks so BIG!!
Guess it needs some time getting used to...hehehe

Waltz!!

Started out my waltz yesterday at Waterloo Center. It was interesting. Just learnt the posture and how to walk Zig Zag. Though it seems easy, but actually there are some difficulty executing. Even though it is just Left-Right-Left, Right-Left-Right, simple enough steppin, there will be time where I will use the wrong leg, due to some weight shift problem. But by the end of the lesson, I kinda got it.
Initially I thought I can pay by credit, but...they do not have a credit card machine!! They don't even accept Nets -.-" We have to go out and find the nearest ATM. We walked all the way to Cityhall and still can't find a ATM machine because the machine is DOWN!! It was super tiring. Ended up we have to call the teacher and tell them that we will pay them tonight, when we go for our 2nd lesson.
It was kinda disappointing when J, my partner, says that he thinks that just learn basic is enough. The purpose of him learning is to be able to dance(show off) on his D&D, even if he learns till high lvl, he can't grab any girl and dance. So I guess it will just be 4 lesson and that's it.

Intro to Jazz Lesson 1

Last Monday was the first lesson for Intro to Jazz @ Jitterbug.
The lesson was quite fun, learn some basic position and moves of Jazz. Did some stretching, which makes me feel like a block of wood. hahaha. It is nothing really tedious, but the instructor says it is the first lesson so he is going easy on us, so hope I won't die the next lesson.
Did some simple move like grapevine, kick and skip (they have a proper name in french which we are suppose to rmb but obviously I don't), at the end of the lesson, we learn a simple choreo that include all those moves we learnt.
Went to dinner at MOF after that, the food is not bad and what attracts me most are the desserts. They looks good and taste good as well. Sit there eat and talk with S till the waiter chases us out. hahhaa.
Looking forward to the next lesson...hehe

23rd Birthday

My birthday celebration started on the 23rd where i went Pariss with my family for buffet dinner. The price is still expensive but the variety of food went down so does the standard of the food. The food are all so salty.
On my birthday itself, I went to D's place for lunch, he cooked lunch for me (^.^). And its union at night. haha. Had my bday dance. It was fun, though I sux. hahaha, but who cares, its my birthday.
The next day, I met C to go to KTV. She bought me a Oreo Cheese cake (^.^)\/ I haven cut a cake for a long time. Hmm...maybe not that long since I cut it during my 21st bday. Haven been to KTV for a long time, due to salsa and lost of KTV kaki. *sadz* The 2 of us managed (barely) to finish the Oreo Cheese cake, I was so amazed and bloated when we finished it. No wonder I am getting fat.

After KTV, I head down to Cityhall to meet RS, she bought me a blue color shawl and a top =) which I have not wear yet. I shall wear it the next time I am going to meet her..which is dunno when. hahaha. We went to Thai Express for dinner and I ordered the mini tomyam steamboat. It is quite value for money, but you have to cook it yourself. The only problem I have with the steamboat is the squid. Totally unfresh..eeew..Other than that it was not bad..Thai Express std.
Other than the steamboat which I had by myself, we ordered 2 side dishes to share. Nothing fantastic. I was so full when we left the place with the Oreo Cheese cake digesting in the system still.
Though nothing really special went on but I am still glad and appreciate that ppl make time to celebrate my bday with me (^.^)

Super Late Taiwan Trip Posting

I finally went for my Taiwan trip

Day 1: Singapore to Taipei
Nothing much on the first day, just flying from Singapore to Taoyuan airport and the flight was delayed for 45mins. After we reached and collected our baggage, we went to search for Freego bus that will bring us to our hotel, Future Star, in Xi Men Ding, and the funny thing is when we gotten our tickets, the staff did not collect money from us. Initially we thought we are to pay on the bus, but until we alighted, we still have not paid, so it means…we got a free ride. Haha.
After checking in and all, we went in search of our dinner, 天外天火锅!! We gotten a 鸳鸯锅, which consist of clear soup and 麻辣汤, and it is not spicy at all. Overall it’s good food are fresh (except the crabs), free flow of drinks. It cost about NT900+ for 2 pax and they gave a NT100 voucher for next visit.

(Their Signboard)

(The different type soup base)

(Drink all you want!!)

(Table filled with food!!)

Day 2: Leofoo Village and Shida Night Market.
Took MRT to our breakfast dstination Yong He Dou Jiang(永和豆浆) for breakfast. It was good but not as exaggerating as people made it up to be.

(Their train route)

Then off we go to our next destination Leofoo Village. The bus to Leofoo Village is painted with Doraemon, very easy to spot. What is difficult to spot is the bus stop. And it's Patapon time during the journey. Leofoo is a big amusement park with a few thrill rides, but it was not as fantastic as what the review said it is, but still enjoyed the thrill ride, and had my first ever Merry Go Round ride (^.^).

(Some of the parks in Leofoo)

Leaving Leofoo, we took the same Doraemon bus back to Taipei. Initially, we wants to alight at Gong Guan stop, but both of us blur blur alighted at a stop earlier. Since it is one stop we thought of walking to our destination. The walk took us nearly 2hours. Hahaha. I can still feel my feet aching just thinking about it. Nothing much to see at the Shida NM, too crowded.

Day 3: Heading to Alishan
Time to head to the next destination - Alishan
Took the HRS to Jiayi, the HRS is actually very comfortable. Once again we are watching movie during the journey. Reaching Jiayi, we have to take a shuttle bus to the train station and have to walk to the other end of train station to take the train towards Alishan.

(Alishan Railway Train Station)

It is a long scenic train ride towards Alishan, though most of the journey i was playing Patapon. In the middle of the ride, we have to get off the train and walk a short journey in the mountain trail to the other station due to closure of tracks. When the train is reaching Alishan, it will reverse and go forward in order to change tracks. It was a new experience, train reversing =)
Reaching Alishan, the hotel will send ppl to pick us up. We stayed at 青山别馆, the room is quite small, and the bed occupies most of the space in the room.

We had 烧酒鸡 for dinner. I did not let the food boil enough and started trying the soup, and there is so much alcohol in it that has not evaporate yet. Dessert is ice cream from 7-11, due to my sudden craving for ice cream, and Supper is milk muah chee!!

Day 4: The Sun rise tour + Kaohsiung
Woke up 3+ in the morning, for the sunrise tour. Boarded the bus and went on the star tour. It was sooooo cold and I did not have anything thick enough. Was shivering most of the time. There is a guy explaining the different stars we are looking at. Due to some clouds, we were not able to see the milky way, after looking at the most number of stars I have ever seen in my life, we head to see the sun rise. We watch the sunrise at 玉山 from what the guide told us, it is the best spot in Alishan to watch sunrise as it is the highest point, and will be able to catch the first glimpse. After some waiting, I am able to watch my first ever sunrise. It is so remarkable

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After the sun rise tour, we went to walk around the Alishan park. When I thought I am not able to see any Cherry Blossom, as all the Cherry Blossom trees we passed by are all becoming botak, we reached a spot which is full of Cherry Blossom. I was sooo excited, and again my first time seeing Cherry Blossom. Due to time constrain, we did not go too far into the park.
We took the express bus from Alishan to Jiayi and then the train to Kaohsiung.
After checking into the hotel, and did some freshen up and lazing around, we head out to 爱河.
Took the cruise along Aihe, it was quite boring. Hahaha, not as exciting or nice as what others said. After alighting from the boat, we head to 汉神 for dinner. It was not planned so we were walking with the map in hand looking for direction. Had Okonomiyaki as dinner, it is somewhat different from Singapore's Okonomiyaki, and tasted better. Next we head to Liuhe NM. Once again, food hunt!! Ate my 臭豆腐 finally, and we bought quite alot of food back to hotel for supper. We tried to walk back to hotel by taking another stop further on the MRT as it seems nearer on the map. But we were fooled, as alot of roads are closed, so we ended up walking a big round back to the hotel.

Day 5: Kaohsiung, Qijing
Slept till quite late that day, and head to 旗津. Once again, we are in for a long long walk. We managed to get to the canon tower and the light house before it closes, phew!! Nothing really interesting there, just that we are able to see Qijing from high up.

(The Canon tower)

Next we head to the Windmill park which i wanted to go. More walking. Until I can't walk anymore, we took a bus to our destination.

(The windmill park at sunset)

At the park, alot of ppl are flying kites. D bought me a kite to try as I was looking very excited when ppl are flying kite. And for the first time, I managed to get my kite up to the sky (^.^)\/ of course..after some coaching from D. And we managed to watch the sunset there, it was so beautiful. After watching the sunset is Dinner!! We went to a seafood restaurant for seafood dinner. The seafood there are so cheap and fresh. Yummy yummy.

(Just managed to took the pic of the crab, we swept the rest of the food when it came..hehe)

After dinner is back to Kaohsiung. Went to 城市光廊, nothing much there, so disappointed. And we went to Liuhe NM again, as D was thinking about the sashimi we bought the night before, so..more food. hahaha

Day 6: Kenting
We took the transport that the kenting hotel sent. And I slept most of my way there. (^(00)^)
Reaching the hotel, as we are still not able to check in, we leave our baggage there and went out for lunch. We had Thai food for lunch. The tomyam tasted more sweet than spicy and sour though, but the rest of the food was great. After heading back to the hotel and checked in, we once again laze around for awhile, watching TV. We stayed at 戀海126. It is the best hotel we have stayed in the whole journey. The room is big, bed is soft with a very nice view.

View of the hotel

After resting for awhile, we went to rent a motorised bicycle as the lady owner of the hotel suggested and off we go to 鵝鸞鼻. The place is quite far from the main of Kenting actually. Took us nearly half an hour to reach. The place is simply beautiful. It is a light house natural park beside the sea. We were managed to get to quite a height and look down at the sea.

And once again, Sunset!!

After sunsets, we headed out. I tried riding the motor bicycle around the carpark. It was quite disastrous. Hahaha. I was riding S course on a straight road, but it was fun. After going back to hotel and freshen up, we head out to the main street of Kenting to hunt for food. We bought alot of 小吃 from the street back to the hotel and eat comfortably. Kenting is definitely a place I would want to go again.

Day 7: Back to Taipei
After strolling down the beach in the morning, we head back to Taipei. Initially planned to do some shopping at 天母 where ppl are saying there are alot of clothings on warehouse price. But there isn't alot stores open when we were there. Had our dinner there, walk around abit and went back to 士林夜市. Shopping began. Bought some clothes and bags there. After some shopping, its food hunting time again. Once again we bought supper back to hotel.

Day 8: Wu Fen Pu
Initial plan is to go to the Zoo and 猫空 in the morning, but unfortunately, it was raining and 猫空缆车 broke down, so we cancelled the plan and continue to sleep. Went to KFC for branch, had their cheese pork cutlet burger, something Singapore don't serve. It is good. Next 深坑豆腐街, nothing much there. Just a street selling almost the same thing. Had the recommended toufu ice cream, it tasted like soya ice cream. But still worth a try.
After that is 五分铺, Shopping Spree. The clothes there are so cheap!! So I started buying alot of clothes. After buying clothes there, you will find shopping in Singapore is so expensive. After the shopping spree, we head back to hotel to put down my 'trophies' we went to 天外天 again for dinner, intending to use the voucher we got on the first day. After dinner, we went to walk around 西门町，shop abit, where i bought my thicker jacket, as I was freezing due to the heretic weather. then later we split up, D went to hotel and rest when I went to trim my hair. I am so proud of myself when I managed to get back to the hotel without getting lost(but i did a wrong turn initially). hahaha. We stayed in the hotel and watched TV and then we went to KTV!! I was being checked for age as below 18 are not able to go to the KTV after 12mn. The sound system is so good that Singapore can't compare. The room is big with toilet in them. The price is about the same as Singapore's weekend KTV price though. But it is definitely worth going for KTV lovers.

Day 9: Jiu Fen + Keelung
The plan of the day was initially to go 九份 -> 平溪 -> 基隆. Ended up we only went Jiufen and Keelung, as we woke up late again. I had my 粉圆 so happy!! Next we head to Keelung, which took us some trouble to get there. We took a bus from Jiufen to 瑞芳train station and from there we took the train to Keelung. There are alot of food store there. But mostly selling the same thing. So we tried some food. The 蟹肉羹 is very nice. The only food that I would want to eat again there.

Day 10: Hotspring!!
Once again, we missed our morning itinerary, 陽明山. Hey, it's rest and relax, so should relax more and instead of forcing yourself to wake up and rush itinerary.
Went to 新北头 for hotspring. There is a kiosk at the train station for a certain hotspring and spa, so we decide to save the trouble of looking for one and just book there. It cost I think $1600 for a private hotspring room for 2 inclusive of 2 high tea set.
The hotspring room is quite cool, it consist of a shower + suana and a toilet itself.
The best is still their english style high tea. We ordered an English style and an Italian style. Italian style is the typical pasta and English style is sandwich, desserts and fruits. The next

time I go Taiwan I will definitely stay in a hotspring hotel.

The English Style tea.

After soaking hotspring and tea, we head to 渔人码头, strolling down the street, hearing the waves enjoying the wind and sunset (again). The third I watch in the trip, but everytime the feeling is like the first, and all are wonderful.

The sunset

Next we went to Miramar shopping center and have my ferris wheel (^.^). My first ferris wheel ride.

Scenery from the ferris wheel

After the ride, we went for movie. Watched Watchmen IMAX there. A super big screen. Dinner is popcorn and fried chicken from the cinema.
After movie, we went on our bus ride adventure back to 劍潭station. We took a wrong bus and had to change to another bus. We went to Shilin NM to grab supper and back to hotel we go...

Day 11: Last Day
Did not do much that day, just went for last minute shopping. Bought some jeans and clothes. And back home.

Now I think back I am glad that I only added 3kg after all the eat, sleep and play. The trip is real wonderful and don't wish to get back to reality. Taiwan is definitely a place I want to go again, but it will be different states (^.^) Alot photos are yet to be uploaded, cos not with me >.<

My New Hobby!!

I got a new hobby!! Well, not entirely new, just that I re-picked up again recently. My new hobby is…Knitting!! I know it sounds like an ‘auntie’ hobby, but I was really so bored that picked up my old yarn and needle and start doing something, and I have always like doing some cross stitch and stuff.
All along I only know about casting, knit and stitch. So wanting to try something else I search the net. Youtube is such a wonderful site. Haha. I can find all sorta videos on casting on, different stitches, so on and so forth.
When I was doing my knitting, I am watching Naruto at the same time. So I was trying to do 2 things at once. Watching a Japanese anime and doing knitting, and my Japanese is not good enough for me to listen without subtitle. So if I am too engrossed with knitting then all that went into my ears are ‘xxx, dattebayo’, the names and some of the jitsu. So it means I don’t understand more than half. Now I have done do pouches, one in single color, the other I tried including other colors. The result wasn’t as bad as I thought it would, so am quite glad. Now I will try to make something else other than pouches and hope I can succeed. (^.^)

Some CNY Photos

As usual, nothing much to do during CNY other than eat, sleep and chit chat. So we decided to all squeeze into the master bedroom, all taking a space on the bed. There is another half of the bed not taken into the picture.


The baby in the house, was very grouchy the whole day, it was until later in the night that she is in a better mood and took a smiling picture.


Me and my cousin looking like mad woman with our messy hair.

I think this dress design is the 'in' thing for now. My cousin also bought a similar dress. I never really thought I would ever wear a dress so striking in color. When I showed my mum the dress, her first reaction is 'so song (old fashion) ' but actually it don't really look that bad lah, or so I think.

Taiwan Trip

Seems like my Taiwan trip is not going to be going down the drain anymore..YAY!! (^.^)\/
D has agreed to go with me so I wont have to waste my plane tickets, I won't be going in February though. Most probably will be going in March, I don't want to miss Spring, but still need to check D's schedule, see when he is available. And, I need to renew my passport, not sure how long it takes. Not confirm how many days will be going though, need to do planning again. Hopefully this time there won't be any more complications and conflicts. I shall look forward to the trip =)

Sudden Movie Urge

Yesterday, D msn me at about 11pm asking me where is the nearest cinema around our area. Initially I thought he was planning a movie date some time next week. Then he suddenly say no more slots for Red Cliff 2, after saying that he say 'CCK got slot at 1130pm but I doubt you can make it.' Then I realise he meant going for movie that night. After some searching and discussion, we found that AMK hub have a slot at 0040, but the seat wasn't very good. So D say to call it off, since I don't sound that excited also, then I told him I already getting excited about going for a movie after all the search, and so the movie is still on. That is about 12am when we settle on going. Since there were still train to AMK we decide to take train to save $$.
Disaster came, I can't find my wallet. I kept looking around the room and can't find. End up, I borrowed my mum's Ez link card and some money and rush out of the house as D is nearing SBW station. Luckily I stay near the station.
The show was not bad, though not as nice as Red Cliff 1. I was having difficulty getting comfortable in the seat, don't know why. Maybe cos I am too cold. Anyway, though it was quite last min, its quite fun. Enjoyed the movie (^.^)

Cancellation of Taiwan Trip

I just backed out from the Taiwan trip that I used to be looking forward to. Reason for backing out is I don’t feel like going anymore, or at least not with GK. If that is the case why I agreed to go with her in the first place? That is because I thought I will be able to tolerate her.
I have known her since I joined the company through another colleague, and we got along quite well, though a bit trying at times as she is not a very easy person to get along with. I have known all of her flaws before agreeing to go with her, and I have to admit that I do not have that good a temper myself.
When we first booked the air ticket, we were very excited about the trips. Constantly talking about the places we want to go, things we want to do, to try when we reached there. We set the date for the trip to be from 12 Feb to 23 Feb, 11days, a long holiday so we can visit more places at a relaxed pace.
When the initial planning time comes, things happened. Though we have a lot of common places that we want to go, there are also differences, example zoo and mao kong. And when I suggested them initially she discarded them as low X2 priority. Which means, will only consider if we have too much spare time, so I kept quiet. To me it is quite alright, as long as the most of the places in the plan is where I want to go or don’t mind going is ok.
We scheduled a brain storming session to put our thoughts into a schedule so we will know how much time we have and how much time we have to stay at each places, as we planned to visit Kaohsiung and Tai Chung as well. During the long brain storming session she did not really gave much input and we realize for Taipei area, we got too much spare time. So we decided to go back and see where else we can go. Later, she told me that she isn’t thinking during the session most of the time she is just spacing off, and after going through the itinerary, she wants to change some stuff in the schedule, though I was a little irritated, but I was quite ok with it.
After some research via trip advisor, she saw a person’s itinerary with zoo and mao kong, and that after going to a lot places, the person still have a lot of time. Then she suggested going there. When she made the suggestion, I just replied I have these places in mind in the first place, but when I told you rated them as low X2 priority, so I kept quiet. Then she started complaining that I did not bring them up at all during the brain storm session, carrying on and on. So I got a bit pissed and told her that I did bring up before the session and that she is the one discarding the idea so simply, so why would I want to bring them up again, and that I am going according to most of her plan, without complaining, what else is she unhappy about. Knowing that I wasn’t very happy about it, she asked me to list down the places that I have in mind so she can try putting it into the itinerary. I appreciated it when she asked me to do that, as I know that she is trying to make peace, so I decided to let things pass. This is the first argument we had.
When I sent her my list (a very short one), she complained that my itinerary format is too good, research too organized that she felt stressful using. And so I asked her to use her own format, since she is not comfortable with mine. But she still continues to rant on and on (as usual). And I got irritated again. Easily irritated aren’t I, but I really can’t help it as one conflict happens after another, all the irritations builds up. Maybe I am just being petty, but my excitement for the trip gets dampened. And slowly I am no longer looking forward to it anymore.
She will show me her draft itinerary once in a while to see if I am ok with it. Usually I will just glance through, without giving much input as I already feel tired of all those disagreement and stuff and since most of the places I wanted to go are in the itinerary, the timing and other arrangement I leave it up to her. As I think in order for this trip to be successful one side have to give in, and so I shall be the one. Not wanting to be great but rather I don’t mind just going along. If there are things that I am not happy with I will voice out, example, I do not want to visit too many temple, one or two is fine, but not all. But I can see that she isn’t too happy that I did not give much input. After all the ‘rejection’ gotten whenever inputs are asked, sooner or later you won’t want to voice out anymore.
The ignition point came when she told me if we can’t liaised with the Taipei part then she don’t mind going on our separate ways. I exploded. From my standpoint, I agree to go travelling with her because we are travelling together. And after all the ‘giving in’ (though it’s no big deal), she tell me she don’t mind going separate ways. I told her that the whole idea of going travelling together is to tour together and not each going their own way if that is the case I would have gone travelling alone instead of going with her. Maybe I got weird logic, but at that point I really gotten very angry with her. My excitement for the trip is totally lost.
After telling her my standpoint, she did not bring up the topic of travelling on separate ways anymore. She will still send me link on hotel and hostel asking my view, which is my preference or am I ok with some arrangement. I did reply her but not as keen as I previously was.
From the point of my ‘explosion’ today, we had not seen each other or talk to each other, she will just send me an email, of changes. We used to be lunch-mate, but we had not had lunch together for a long period of time. Initially she will drop a message saying she will not be lunching with me. Recently, she didn’t even bother. No reason, nothing.
Last week she messaged me via office communicator, stating that she has sent email to hotel making enquiries. Then she asked me aren’t I even excited about the trip? It is in less than a month. Then I told her after all these frictions, my mood is really dampened, my excitement level has dropped till zero. Then she replied that she rather be going happily than unhappily. I get worked up over her reply. What I said to her was quite harsh actually. I told her that she is the one that dampened my mood and make me pissed, so don’t talk to me about going happily or unhappily. For me, I felt that she don’t really cared how I feel and don’t take to heart about things I have said. All she said is hope I get over my anger soon, and did not contact me since then.
Just when I was thinking, maybe I should not be so petty and unforgiving, I shall attune myself and get over whatever unhappiness that happened previously, after all, I do not want to waste my money, waste the trip and lose a friend. I received an email from her last night:-
‘Are you feeling better? Hope you are less angry now. You know, I have been thinking about it for the past week, I think sometimes I do not really mean something when I said, it just kind of blurt out but you seem to take it seriously. As a result a lot of miscommunications and unhappiness occur. Im not sure if you have gotten over it by now, but I guess like what you said, I have managed to really piss and anger you, and I do not want such things to happen again. Therefore I guess it’s better for you and for me not to travel together…’
Then I begin to wonder, did she ever really take in what I have said to her, and is there a point to the trip. The initial objective is to go together happily, now she is telling me that it’s better for us not to travel together. Now my excitement lever for the trip has gone from zero to negative. And I decide to back out from the trip. It is better to waste the airfare ($425) than go and spend another 1+k and not being happy about it. After all, 2k isn’t a small amount of money. At least to me it isn’t.
I have sent her an email telling her all the things that I am not happy about (all I have told her before), and that I won’t be going with her. I feel very bad about this. As I know by not going, means she has to either not go or pay the full price for accommodation instead of sharing the price with me. And I know that once I have told her not going, it would mean an end to a friendship, by going along there might be a chance to sustain this friendship but it’s just a chance, there is no affirmation that it will happen.
Well, since I have sent out the email on my intention, there is no turning back. I can only go ahead. But I really regretted agreeing to go with her to Taiwan in the first place, if not I would not have to lose a friend, no matter if she is a good friend or not. I guess I can’t blame her fully; if only I have handled the situation better, communicate with her more (though there are times when we really can’t communicate), maybe things won’t end up this way. But it’s already too late…
She has not reply and I am not sure if she will or not. So let’s just see what will happen…

Long Post on Venting Irritation

I believe everyone has their own principle, a line where people should not cross.
For me I believe my principle is very simple. Everybody has got their Wants and Don't Want. So when I say I don't like something or don't want to do something, don't force it on me.
Think this principle applies to almost everyone.

I have no problem being friends who boastful, bitchy, gossip, egoistic, opinionated, biased, extreme or what. I won't judge. They can do whatever they want.
But using me as a tool to boost their ego, or prove their self worthiness, its a big 'NO'.

Recently I am force into a situation where a friend is using 'for your own good' as an excuse and force me to do things that I do not want to do and even do things behind my back which makes me look bad but to her its 'for my own good' and when I told her don't do it again, I don't like it, she can still do the same thing and say I am being negative.

Examples:

I say I don't do social bachata. Meaning I only dance bachata with guys I am comfortable and closer with and not some random stranger which you think they are good. For me, bachata is a close contact dance so I don't want to dance with some random ppl. I believe it is easy to understand. But she keep introducing her friends to me and make me dance bachata with them, even after numerous time not to do that again. Her reason is she is helping me improve and so she do it over and over again irregardless of my objection.

This is one of the many many example of things that she has done to me. And not the worst. Though to ppl it might be no big deal, to me it is something.

And what is worst is on Sunday, I have to sit through a round of insults just because I don't feel like talking. She ask me to go with her and another guy, whom I have seen before but don't know him, to shop for things. Since I have nothing to do so I went along.
After shopping we went to coffee bean for a drink. It started well enough. I should say I am not in the mood of socialising. Afterall, I was out the whole night the previous day and only slept at 9+am that morning and have to wake up about 1pm for class.
I did not want to go for the drink in the first place but still went along. I was happy enough to sit there and listen to their conversation and she has to go and say to the guy 'must make her open her mouth, I trying to push her to talk'. She make it sound as though I have no social skill at all, cannot talk to people, cannot hold a conversation. Well, I am quite defiant also, the more she wants me to talk the more I do not want to talk.
And later the guy tried to draw me into a conversation and then I started talking. Later his comment is 'you are finally asking question after I have ask n number of questions'. -.-"
Holding conversation doesn't mean only mean asking questiong loh. If only asking questions it will become interrogation. Its about the to and fro.
Later my friend, ask the guy, who know me barely 3hrs of his impression of me.
His answer 'She is only confident in the circle she draws around herself, a comfort zone and neglecting the bigger circle outside' and my friend agree whole heartedly, adding on 'I am not mature enough, lack of exposure, not adventurous, blah blah' don't really remember the rest, but definitely nothing good in them. Well..I am only 22.
To add on to those not very nice comment she ask the guy if he is an employer, would he employ me. His answer is 'If day to day job, yes. If high prospect job, no'
I just told him, 'my boss thinks otherwise'. Maybe my boss is not clever enough thats why he employed me. haha.

Call me petty, but I think all these comments are uncalled for and hurting, no matter true or not. My friend thinks it is a good way for self analysis, I think she really should analyse more of herself so she won't be so insensitive to other people's feeling. To her it is being straight forward, to me it is not. To me being straight forward is being truthful but not uncaring about others feeling. And when you start telling her about things that she should be looking out for in her character she gets defensive.
This is what I call 只许州官放火,不准百姓点灯.

I know this is a rather long postiing, but I have all these 'unhappiness' stored up too long but she has really hit my limit of tolerance. I am not making her look bad or what, it is all about me. If she happens to read this posting and want to stop being friends then fine. But if she still want to be friend I will be more than welcome. Just as long as she stop doing all the 'for your own good' stuff, or using me to prove her own self-worthiness.

Friend is someone who treats each other with sincerity and someone whom you can share and talk anything to them about without afraid of being judge and they won't be using you as a source of convenience for whatever motives.

There isn't be any mention of names, so no 'privacy' are invaded or 'reputations' spoiled.

Revival Again

Wootz...its been such a long time since I last blog..

Why have I stopped? The various reasons are:

1) I am super irritated by people's 'Go read my blog' attitude.
I think it is alright when there is a situation and when too many people are asking about it, it is natural for blogger to say 'go read my blog'. But if no matter what topic u r on, and conversation always end with 'go read my blog' then I think its too much.
And well, I have got better things than reading blogs everyday.

2) My blog is for my own recording of whatever I want to write about. Whether it is daily activities, special events, my thoughts and view or my venting of anger. And most importantly I should able to write in whatever 'languages' I want. No matter it is Chinese, Japanese, British English, American English or Singapore English. I don't need ppl coming in to 'correct' my language or spelling. I not taking an exam.

Why did I start writing again, is cause I decided that I should not be bothered by all these ppl. Blogging is for myself and not for others. Ppl are welcome to read and comment of course..but please try not to tell me what I should or should not do in MY blog.