Long Post on Venting Irritation

I believe everyone has their own principle, a line where people should not cross.
For me I believe my principle is very simple. Everybody has got their Wants and Don't Want. So when I say I don't like something or don't want to do something, don't force it on me.
Think this principle applies to almost everyone.

I have no problem being friends who boastful, bitchy, gossip, egoistic, opinionated, biased, extreme or what. I won't judge. They can do whatever they want.
But using me as a tool to boost their ego, or prove their self worthiness, its a big 'NO'.

Recently I am force into a situation where a friend is using 'for your own good' as an excuse and force me to do things that I do not want to do and even do things behind my back which makes me look bad but to her its 'for my own good' and when I told her don't do it again, I don't like it, she can still do the same thing and say I am being negative.

Examples:

I say I don't do social bachata. Meaning I only dance bachata with guys I am comfortable and closer with and not some random stranger which you think they are good. For me, bachata is a close contact dance so I don't want to dance with some random ppl. I believe it is easy to understand. But she keep introducing her friends to me and make me dance bachata with them, even after numerous time not to do that again. Her reason is she is helping me improve and so she do it over and over again irregardless of my objection.

This is one of the many many example of things that she has done to me. And not the worst. Though to ppl it might be no big deal, to me it is something.

And what is worst is on Sunday, I have to sit through a round of insults just because I don't feel like talking. She ask me to go with her and another guy, whom I have seen before but don't know him, to shop for things. Since I have nothing to do so I went along.
After shopping we went to coffee bean for a drink. It started well enough. I should say I am not in the mood of socialising. Afterall, I was out the whole night the previous day and only slept at 9+am that morning and have to wake up about 1pm for class.
I did not want to go for the drink in the first place but still went along. I was happy enough to sit there and listen to their conversation and she has to go and say to the guy 'must make her open her mouth, I trying to push her to talk'. She make it sound as though I have no social skill at all, cannot talk to people, cannot hold a conversation. Well, I am quite defiant also, the more she wants me to talk the more I do not want to talk.
And later the guy tried to draw me into a conversation and then I started talking. Later his comment is 'you are finally asking question after I have ask n number of questions'. -.-"
Holding conversation doesn't mean only mean asking questiong loh. If only asking questions it will become interrogation. Its about the to and fro.
Later my friend, ask the guy, who know me barely 3hrs of his impression of me.
His answer 'She is only confident in the circle she draws around herself, a comfort zone and neglecting the bigger circle outside' and my friend agree whole heartedly, adding on 'I am not mature enough, lack of exposure, not adventurous, blah blah' don't really remember the rest, but definitely nothing good in them. Well..I am only 22.
To add on to those not very nice comment she ask the guy if he is an employer, would he employ me. His answer is 'If day to day job, yes. If high prospect job, no'
I just told him, 'my boss thinks otherwise'. Maybe my boss is not clever enough thats why he employed me. haha.

Call me petty, but I think all these comments are uncalled for and hurting, no matter true or not. My friend thinks it is a good way for self analysis, I think she really should analyse more of herself so she won't be so insensitive to other people's feeling. To her it is being straight forward, to me it is not. To me being straight forward is being truthful but not uncaring about others feeling. And when you start telling her about things that she should be looking out for in her character she gets defensive.
This is what I call 只许州官放火,不准百姓点灯.

I know this is a rather long postiing, but I have all these 'unhappiness' stored up too long but she has really hit my limit of tolerance. I am not making her look bad or what, it is all about me. If she happens to read this posting and want to stop being friends then fine. But if she still want to be friend I will be more than welcome. Just as long as she stop doing all the 'for your own good' stuff, or using me to prove her own self-worthiness.

Friend is someone who treats each other with sincerity and someone whom you can share and talk anything to them about without afraid of being judge and they won't be using you as a source of convenience for whatever motives.

There isn't be any mention of names, so no 'privacy' are invaded or 'reputations' spoiled.